Read
this with your near and dear ones
Now
that you have made up your list of reasons, its time to garner
support from your near and dear ones. Although you are the primary
subject of this quitting exercise, patient understanding from your
immediate human environment will make it easier for you to go
through the difficult days of withdrawal. So go ahead, tell your
close ones about your intentions and read it with them.
You
Can Make The Difference
Pestering,
threatening, insulting, destroying or hiding cigarettes, you must
have tried them all. In spite of your good intentions, you have
not only failed but have made your friend more resentful resulting
in a higher consumption of cigarettes. The truth is smokers are
going to smoke until they are ready to quit. And this time your
friend is ready and will be much more receptive. So even if you
are fed up with him try helping once more, not by the past methods
but by Understanding. This passage will aid you in being more
tolerant towards your friend during nicotine withdrawal, so read
on cause you
can make the vital difference.
Smokers
do not smoke because they are stupid. They don't smoke
because they are mean or obnoxious and wish to hurt their families
and friends. They smoke because they are human, and as
humans they make mistakes. One that all smokers are guilty
of is experimentation with a highly addictive and dangerous drug -
nicotine. Many of them took up smoking long before they knew
of any dangers. When they realized the dangers, they may
have attempted to quit, but for some it is not easy. They
are hooked on a drug, and it will take strong resolve and a
support system to overcome the initial difficulties encountered
during the quitting process.
The
best support which can be provided by significant others is to offer
love, patience and understanding,
and to try to make the smoker's life as easy as possible over the
first few days. The smoker giving up cigarettes may have
severe emotional outbursts and be irritable, depressed, and even
irrational. These are all the effects of nicotine
withdrawal. Many family members and friends will encourage
them to smoke rather than act like that. If they were
recovering alcoholics, they would not be offered drinks by these
people. If they were reacting to chemotherapy they would not
be begged to give it up and sacrifice their lives for the family's
momentary comfort. Unfortunately, many friends and family
members often do not take smoking cessation seriously enough.
We are not talking about giving up a simple little annoyance
such as biting of nails. We are talking about a powerful and
deadly addiction. They are dealing with a real physiological
need as well as a strongly ingrained psychological dependence.
Offer the most encouragement you can. Be tolerant of their
temporary emotional outbursts. They will soon return to
normal, and you will have the personal satisfaction of knowing you
helped them over one of the greatest challenges of their lives -
giving up cigarettes.
While
non-smokers may offer their love, patience and understanding, if
you are an ex-smoker, you have the unique ability to be a highly
supportive and credible source to the individual attempting to
quit smoking. You knew what it was like to smoke. You
know how much nicer it is to go through life as an ex-smoker.
Share this knowledge. Be honest - if you still have
"thoughts" for a cigarette, tell them. But clarify
what the thoughts are like. If you are a typical ex-smoker,
the thoughts occur quite infrequently, and even when they do occur
they last only seconds and are just a passing desire rather than a
real painful episode such as those encountered during initial
cessation.
People
giving up cigarettes need to know this natural evolutionary
process of smoker to ex-smoker. When they encounter urges
after the first two weeks, they are no longer experiencing
physical withdrawal, rather they are responding to a psychological
trigger. They are experiencing a new situation for the first
time without a cigarette. This the time when your love and
understanding will make the difference between failure and
success. The urge will pass and they will have learned how to face
all future similar experiences as an ex-smoker, with no
discomfort. Offer periodic support to them letting them know you
care about them, and always reinforce one concept to guarantee
success in their continued non-smoking status - YOU
ARE PROUD TO BE CLOSE TO A PERSON WHO HAD THE COURAGE AND
WILLPOWER TO STAMP OUT THE DANGEROUSLY ADDICTIVE CIGARETTE.
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